I was reading a women writing about the future that she was creating for her life, and I was struck by how much it sounded like an exercise I had done years ago in a Landmark Education course (the Advanced Course, I think). Then I noticed that she indeed wrote of taking Landmark Education classes, and that she worked for the athletic clothing company Lululemon, where many of the employees take part in Landmark. In fact, the post about creating her future was in answer to a Lululemon questionnaire about her future plans.
Whether Lululemon or Landmark, it presents an interesting way of creating one’s future. Rather than simply listing future goals, it speaks in the present tense, as if those things have actually been accomplished, and speaks from the pride of having fulfilled those things. Three different time slots are written about – 1 year, 3 years and 10 years out, so you can still see the future building over time.
One of the most valuable things I got out of taking part in Landmark is the idea of living into a future now. Rather than having future goals that one hopes to achieve someday, you create possibilities for the future that impact you right NOW, so you are moved into action NOW, rather than someday. In this way your goals give you power in the present, rather than being a mirage out in front of you.
I hope this makes sense – I recommend reading the ‘Glo’s World‘ blog and you’ll get a clearer picture of this.
There’s a blogger I like named Alex Shalman who recently put out a video about the Landmark Education Advanced Course. It’s interesting how he talks about the idea of his ‘act’ like a habitual way of behaving that doesn’t work for him. I’m going to try to post the video; here’s a partial transcript in case it doesn’t take!
My act is how I responded to failure in relationships. I’m not talking about breakups, or something major; I’m talking about a failure of the other person to show up on time, or say the right thing about me. It’s kind of silly stuff – well, not so much silly as practical and everyday. My act has been “you’re not going to pull one over on me,” meaning you’re not going to con me; you’re not going to cheat me; you’re not going to get one over on me.
The impact of this is getting frustrated at the most basic level, or getting pissed off or annoyed. What happens when I’m pissed off and annoyed is I’m not having a good time; I’m not enjoying myself; I’m not happy because I’m not taking pleasure in what I have. This can last anywhere from a minute to half an hour to however long I decide to stay pissed.
The good thing is that now that I’ve identified my act is the possibility of just stopping it whenever I notice it, because now I look at myself and I can laugh, ‘Hey I’m doing my act again – The act I’ve always done,” and just get right through that, turn it off, instantly.
And from that I see myself having much happier relationships in situations with my friend’s family, just anyone that I love or anyone that I’m in their company.
And before I forget, here’s a link to Alex Shalman’s excellent blog, which is one of the best, most content-rich personal development blogs I’ve seen in a long time.